Why can’t I find love

Why Can’t I Find Love?

Have you been looking for that “special person” for a while now, but been unable to find them?  You will be asking yourself “Why can’t I find Love?” and wondering if there is something wrong with you.


It is time to step back and take an honest look at your life and work out just what it could be that is getting in the way of you finding love. If you can’t find love there are a number of things that could be causing an issue – see whether any of these 5 things could be getting in the way:


Your career or job. Are you too devoted to your job? When you have no-one special in your life, it can be easy to let your working life take over to fill in the gaps. If you are always at work, it is not going to be possible to have the time to embark on a new relationship, let alone maintain one. You need to re-assess your priorities and make space for socialising and relaxation. No one wants to be with a workaholic! Don’t use work as an excuse to not get yourself out and meet some new people.



Your friends. Are you surrounding yourself with negative people? Sometimes your friends can unwittingly stop you from finding love, maybe they have had a bad experience in the past and are bitter towards the opposite sex. Their negative attitude could rub off on you making you feel the same when they are around. Maybe they behave badly or don’t dress well causing embarrassment – any of these things could stop you from attracting a mate. So have a truthful look at them and if you think it could be them holding you back, either find some new friends or try talking to your old ones.


Your home. Are you proud of your home? Is it clean and tidy or dirty, untidy and filled with clutter? Would you be happy to invite someone into your home right now? If the answer is no, then do something about it now. If you don’t have room for a person to come in to your home, then a relationship will have difficulty finding it’s way to you.


Your attitude. To attract love, you need to have a positive attitude. If you are always cynical and negative around the opposite sex and doubt that you will ever find that special person, then this negative attitude will show through in your general demeanour and will stop anyone from being attracted to you. Also if you show that you are desperate to find someone, this will also be off-putting. So try and be positive and stop worrying about finding “the one”, just concentrate on making the most of your life and be open to letting new people.


Your ex. Have you truly let go of your ex partner? You need to accept fully that the relationship is over so that you can move on to the next chapter in your life. It is very easy to cling on to the happy memories and forget all the bad things that happened when you have got nothing else good in your life. Let them go and make room for someone else.


Take a good look at your life and address any of these issues if you think any of them could be holding you back. Stop asking yourself that question “Why can’t I find love?” just make sure you are fully open to finding love – when you are, you may be surprised that love will find you.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”