how to find a good man

How to Find a Good Man

Have you begun to despair that you will ever find the man of your dreams and don’t really know how to find a good man? Maybe you’ve had so many dates with unsuitable men that you’re beginning to wonder if there are actually any good men out there.

Well, I can assure you that there are, you just need to know where to look and what you are looking for. So here are my tips on how to find a good man:


  • First of all you need to know what a good man is. What are the qualities you are looking for in a man? Qualities that I would consider important are integrity, nice personality, trustworthiness, kindness, supportive, loving, confidence, ambition in life, family-orientated, respectful. The list could go on. The important thing is for you to decide which attributes are the most important to you.

How to find a good man

  • When you are aware of what qualities you are looking for in a man, you then need to work out what qualities you feel a good man would be looking for and make sure that you develop those qualities yourself. A good man is not necessarily looking for the most physically attractive woman, but is looking ultimately for similar things to you. Make sure you are attractive on the inside and your qualities will shine through. Smile a lot and show that you have confidence in yourself. Good men will automatically be attracted to you if you believe in yourself and are happy in your own skin.


  • Don’t allow past baggage to affect your future. Yes, we’ve all had bad or negative experiences and these can knock us down, but it is important to let the past go and concentrate on building the future. If you are constantly on the defensive or cannot allow yourself to trust anyone, then you will never find anyone new and your good man will pass you by. So pick up the pieces, put yourself back together and start again with a positive attitude.


  • Be open all the time to new opportunities. You never know when you are going to run in to the man who may be perfect for you. It may be at the supermarket, at work, while walking the dog – just about anywhere. So make sure you are always ready to smile and start a conversation. You never know where it might lead.


  • Even though there is always the possibility if meeting someone anywhere you go, why not go to places where suitable men might hang out. There will always be guys at the gym, sporting events, motorbike/car shows, parties, clubs and classes, church, volunteering events. These are all places where there is a good chance that you might get chatting to a good man. If you are there as your happy, confident self, then there is a very good chance that he will notice you.


Never forget that a good man could be just around the corner waiting for you to bump into him, so make sure that you are always ready for that eventuality. Love yourself, smile and he will be attracted to you like a magnet if he is the right one.