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How to Spot a Dating Con Man

Dating and meeting new people can be a lot of fun, but you must always keep your wits about you and look out for signs that may indicate that things are not quite right and you might be dating a con man. While the majority of men you meet will be genuine and honest, there are unfortunately some who are not and will try and scam you out of money.

 

Here are some tips in how to spot a dating con man:

 

He seems too good to be true. A con man has a knack of creating very attractive personas in order to make you fall in love with him very quickly. He may describe himself as a very wealthy businessman who has at last found someone who understands him or a down-to-earth single dad who has found his soul mate. Or he may say that he is a policeman, teacher, lawyer or other professional person in a position of trust and respect. They are very clever at crafting believable situations that lower your guard in order to gain your trust so that they can ask you for money as time moves on.

 How to spot a dating con man

If someone claims to have fallen in love with you too quickly, take a step back and consider the situation. He may be absolutely genuine, but make sure you proceed with caution before you get in too deep and look out for any other suspicious signs.

 

He wants to move too fast. When you meet someone new, whether it is in person or online, you need to take time to get to know each other slowly. If he declares his undying love for you soon after meeting and starts calling you by a pet name, be wary. Con men are very good at making you feel as though you are the special one they have been looking for all their life and may pressure you into getting married or moving in together. You may feel flattered, but be realistic and insist that he takes things more slowly.

 

He asks for personal information. Con men can be pretty clever at getting the information they need to get their hands on your money. He may subtly ask about where you bank or could ask to have a look at your driving license. He might offer to do you a favour and pick up some cash for you from the ATM using your card. Identity theft is pretty easy once you’ve got hold of the right information, so make sure you keep this sort of information to yourself until you have got to know him really well.

 

He asks for money. A con man is very good at coming up with reasons for needing money. He may suddenly have an emergency where he needs cash immediately, such as his pay check hasn’t come through and he needs to pay his rent otherwise he’ll be evicted or a family member needs emergency treatment that needs paying for. He may convince you that it is just a loan to tide him over until the money comes through, but whatever the situation, you should never, ever give anyone any money unless you have known them for a very long time and know that you can trust them completely.

 

He disappears regularly. A man who disappears for days or weeks at a time is invariably up to no good. It is quite likely that he is leading a double life and may have a wife and family elsewhere. If this happens, especially around holiday times, then be extremely cautious.

 

The world is full of all types of people, most of whom are decent, law-abiding citizens, but there are those who take advantage of vulnerable women and cheat them out of lots of money, so make sure you follow my tips on how to spot a dating con man and do not fall for their charms.

 

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