How to Make Your First Time a Success

There will come a point in your relationship when you feel completely at ease in each others company and are feeling ready to take things to another level. Hopefully you have discussed the past and know each others sexual history and are comfortable with the idea of making love for the first time.

However, as natural as sex is, things can go wrong and spoil what should be a memorable occasion, so make sure that you are fully ready and know how to make you first time a success.Make your first time making love a success

Here are a few guidelines that will help:

Chill out. It is quite likely that you will feel a bit nervous, that is natural – but do not get over-anxious otherwise things could end in failure (especially for the man). Just take it easy and lower your expectations – first time sex is not about trying to impress and put on a show, it is about exploring each others bodies and getting to know them better.

Be prepared. If you have an inkling that “tonight will be the night”, make sure that you are ready. If you are going back to your place, make sure that everywhere is clean and tidy and you have clean sheets on the bed. Make sure you have his/her favourite drink in and something for breakfast. Have some condoms where you can easily get at them.

Create a comfortable and relaxed atmosphere.

It goes without saying that you should be clean and smell good.

Communicate. Sex is rarely perfect (only in the movies). You need to tell each other what you like. Different people respond to different things, so what worked well with a previous partner will not necessarily go down well this time. So have fun finding out and don’t be scared of saying that you are not enjoying something or asking for something different. Make sure that there is some give and take so that you both get pleasure from each other.

Have a laugh. Don’t get embarrassed if things go wrong (anyone can get cramp at inopportune moments!

A sense of humour is an appealing quality in anyone. You may cringe at the time but it could be something that you might look back on some time in the future when reminiscing – “Do you remember the time….”

Remember there always has to be a first time for everything, it may be wonderful or it may not. Now that you know how to make the first time a success, the second time will come much easier as you relax and can concentrate on perfecting your technique.

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Talking About Past Sexual Relationships

past sexual relationshipsSex is a vital part of a satisfying relationship, so if you feel that you have found the right one  and the relationship is getting serious, you both need to be open and truthful when talking about past sexual relationships.

Make sure you have given yourselves enough time to get to know each other first
before choosing a comfortable and private place where you can have a frank and honest discussion about your past sexual history.

Decide to be honest with each other and try not to feel awkward about disclosing your most intimate details, but on the other hand don’t go into too much detail which could possible make you both feel uncomfortable.

If your partner confesses to having had many previous sexual partners, don’t be too judgmental and jump to conclusions, it does not necessarily mean that he/she has been or will be unfaithful,  just appreciate the fact that they are being honest.

As much as we don’t like to think about it, it is important that you discuss STD’s
and if either of you have any doubts, you should agree together to be tested before
embarking on a sexual relationship together. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have faith
in each other, it simply means that you are being responsible because you care about each other.

A happy and fulfilling sex life is an enhancement to any close relationship, but do make sure that you get to know each other completely before getting too intimate. It is always best to be honest in every aspect of your life together if the relationship is going to flourish and last.

Don’t allow yourself to be pressurised into having sex before you feel that you are ready. If one of you wants to go further and the other doesn’t, it is important to respect the other persons feelings and not push them into it.

If the relationship is truly sound, then waiting a bit longer is no big deal
and will earn respect from your partner.

If your partner refuses to wait for you to be ready, then it may be time to have a closer look at the relationship and question whether they are the right person for you.

Finding new love is a very exciting time with lots of things to learn and discover about each other, but do make sure that you have this very important discussion and give yourselves the opportunity for talking about past sexual relationships before getting more intimate together.

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When is the Right Time for Sex in a New Relationship

The start of a new relationship is exciting and exhilarating – you are growing closer and finding out new things about each other all the time.

The subject of sex will most likely be going round in the heads of both partners and you will both be thinking ”When is the right time for sex?”

When is the right time for sex in a new relationshipAs much as you may feel that you know your partner pretty well after the first few dates and there seems to some chemistry there, it is too soon for sex. You need to allow yourselves much more time to get to know each other properly before you share your bodies intimately, it is important that you feel completely relaxed in each others company before you move on to the next stage of a relationship.

More often than not, it is usually the man who wants sex first ( I know that is not always true), it can be difficult for a woman to know whether he is genuinely interested in a long-term relationship or just wants sex. If he brings up the subject of sex after a couple of dates, then that is a good warning sign that is just what he is after and maybe isn’t genuinely wanting a meaningful relationship.

If he goes on lots of dates with you without mentioning sex, then that’s a good indicator that he is interested in you as a person and hoping to develop a long, lasting relationship.

There is no particular right time to have sex in a new relationship, but it is important that you both feel ready. Sex is an expression of love and how you feel about each other, so you should really be ready to express your feelings in this way before committing. If you feel that your partner is rushing you before you are ready, then you really need to consider whether you think the relationship is worth continuing with or not. Anyone worth staying with will be happy to wait until you are both ready.

Don’t allow yourself to be pressurised into having sex before you are ready, stay true to your morals and feelings – only you know how you feel and whether you are happy to get more intimate. Make sure you know about their past sexual history before you take things too far, discuss contraception and make sure you are truly sure that you want to do it.

It is important that you get to know each other properly so that you are comfortable and relaxed in each others company in all ways before embarking on a sexual relationship. If you get the timing wrong, then it will most likely be a disappointing experience and may well be the beginning of the end of what could have become a beautiful relationship. If you get the timing right – then wow! You will both be expressing your true love for each other and will hopefully cement your relationship into a lasting, happy partnership.

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