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How to Spot Online Dating Cheats

Online dating can be great fun and a great way to meet new people. It is also a great place for cheats and liars to hang out and it is very easy for you to get caught out if you don’t spot the signs.

 

Here are some things to look out for to show you how to spot online dating cheats.

 

Beware of profiles with only one photo. I know some people are a bit shy about putting their photo on a dating site, but on the whole, genuine singles are quite happy to sell themselves as they are. If there’s just the one picture there is possibly good reasons for this – it means that there is less chance of him being recognised by people who know he is already attached. Maybe it isn’t even him or it could have been taken many years ago and looks nothing like him now.

 

Beware of people who claim to be separated. True, there are genuine people who are separated and free to look for a new partner, but there are also others who are not. It is quite easy for someone who is bored with their relationship and just looking for a bit of fun on the side to sign up on an online dating site without their partner’s knowledge.

 

Beware of odd or unusual usernames. By using a name that is difficult to spell or remember, it gives the user anonymity. If he already has a partner who is perhaps suspicious, she will have more trouble tracking him down. He will also be able to change it frequently on different sites to avoid his identity being found out…

 

Beware of photos that don’t show the eyes. We all know that the eyes are the window to the soul and this is very true. People are usually recognised by their eyes above all of their other features, so beware of anyone who is posing wearing sunglasses.

How to spot online dating cheats

Beware of people who live 100s of mile away, but say they don’t mind travelling. Ask yourself why he wants to meet someone so far away if he is looking for a genuine relationship. It is likely that he already has a partner elsewhere and doesn’t want to risk anyone he knows running into him close to home.

 

Beware of people who are only available on weekdays. If he is never around at weekends, then chances are that he has another life elsewhere with another partner and maybe children.

 

Beware the person who only texts and never calls. If he never has time for a phone chat or puts restrictions on the times you can call or text him, then alarm bells should be ringing. It is possible that he is juggling you around other dates or a relationship.

How to spot online dating cheats

These are just a few pointers on how to spot an online cheat. Obviously not everyone will be guilty, but these are things that I have come across from my clients who have been caught out by online cheats. Whatever you do, always exercise caution when meeting up with someone new online or offline. Look out for red flags and remember to always trust your instincts – if something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t.

 

When is the Right Time for Sex in a New Relationship

The start of a new relationship is exciting and exhilarating – you are growing closer and finding out new things about each other all the time.

The subject of sex will most likely be going round in the heads of both partners and you will both be thinking ”When is the right time for sex?”

When is the right time for sex in a new relationshipAs much as you may feel that you know your partner pretty well after the first few dates and there seems to some chemistry there, it is too soon for sex. You need to allow yourselves much more time to get to know each other properly before you share your bodies intimately, it is important that you feel completely relaxed in each others company before you move on to the next stage of a relationship.

More often than not, it is usually the man who wants sex first ( I know that is not always true), it can be difficult for a woman to know whether he is genuinely interested in a long-term relationship or just wants sex. If he brings up the subject of sex after a couple of dates, then that is a good warning sign that is just what he is after and maybe isn’t genuinely wanting a meaningful relationship.

If he goes on lots of dates with you without mentioning sex, then that’s a good indicator that he is interested in you as a person and hoping to develop a long, lasting relationship.

There is no particular right time to have sex in a new relationship, but it is important that you both feel ready. Sex is an expression of love and how you feel about each other, so you should really be ready to express your feelings in this way before committing. If you feel that your partner is rushing you before you are ready, then you really need to consider whether you think the relationship is worth continuing with or not. Anyone worth staying with will be happy to wait until you are both ready.

Don’t allow yourself to be pressurised into having sex before you are ready, stay true to your morals and feelings – only you know how you feel and whether you are happy to get more intimate. Make sure you know about their past sexual history before you take things too far, discuss contraception and make sure you are truly sure that you want to do it.

It is important that you get to know each other properly so that you are comfortable and relaxed in each others company in all ways before embarking on a sexual relationship. If you get the timing wrong, then it will most likely be a disappointing experience and may well be the beginning of the end of what could have become a beautiful relationship. If you get the timing right – then wow! You will both be expressing your true love for each other and will hopefully cement your relationship into a lasting, happy partnership.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

First Date Tips: How to Act So He Asks You Out Again and Again!

If you want your first date to be a success there are some rules that you should follow. Check out this short video “First Date Tips: How to Act So He Asks You Out Again and Again.

 

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

How to Meet Single Guys

If you are hoping to start a relationship with a new man but are struggling to know how to go about it, then you need to know how to meet single guys who could be suitable for you.

 

That isn’t so difficult when you think about it as suitable single guys are everywhere. You just need to know how to seek them out and get them to notice you.

How to meet single guys

The first thing you need to do is open yourself up to meeting new people and get used to interacting with them. When you go out and about, put a smile on your face and make a point of passing the time of day with everyone you meet. This could be in the supermarket, while you are walking the dog, working out in the gym or anywhere you go. You will be pleasantly surprised by how many people will smile and answer you back.

Practise doing this every single time you go out until it becomes second nature, people are automatically drawn to others who are friendly and open. Obviously not all of these people will be single guys, but one day one of them might be and you need to be ready to act on the opportunity to get to know him by starting up a conversation with him.

 

How to meet single guys

The art of knowing how to meet single guys is to go to the places where they are likely to hang out such as football matches, the gym, swimming pools, sports clubs, concerts, dog walking in the park. It is helpful if you also have an interest in the same activity as you will instantly have something in common. It will then be much easier to start a conversation.

 

Try and go to the same place regularly if you have seen someone you like the look of. Take things slowly. Start off by making eye contact, smiling and saying hello. Do this every time you see him and gradually add a few casual comments in about the weather, the sport or anything else.

 

As time goes by, you will become more familiar with each other and will soon be chatting naturally. If you want to take things further you will of course need to determine that he is a single man, so look for signs of a wedding ring and listen for clues in the conversation.

How to meet single guys

Once you feel comfortable with each other, you could suggest going for a coffee or asking him if he wants to come with you to a sports match or concert if you have found out his interests. Obviously he might say no, but on the other hand he might say yes, so you have got nothing to lose by giving it a try.

 

If you are serious about wanting to know how to meet single guys, then you have to act on every opportunity that comes your way. It may be out of your comfort zone, but they will all pass you by if you do not make some effort to make them notice you, so make sure that you are always open to letting new people into your life.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Should I End my Relationship?

When you are in a relationship it is all too easy to drift along knowing that things are not right, but do not have the courage to face what exactly the problem is. There comes a point when you should ask yourself “Should I end my relationship?” If you are not happy you owe it to yourself to face up to things and either try and resolve the issues or end the relationship. If you don’t, you could end up living a life of misery, which is such a waste of a life when you could move on and find happiness elsewhere.

So how do you know when the time has come to end a relationship? Follow these guidelines:

Should I end my relationship

If you’re asking yourself the question “Should I end my relationship?” You need to work through this checklist and see the 10 Signs to Look out for that show the time has come:

 

You don’t really like him. As time goes by in a relationship you may come to realise that you don’t really like the person you are with. Maybe they don’t share your values, they don’t respect your family and friends, do things that you do not agree with, make life difficult. Often people stay in a relationship because they are afraid of being on their own and afraid that they will not be able to find anyone better. If you don’t like someone – move on now.

 

He clearly doesn’t like you. If he does not treat you with respect and obviously does not care much about you, then it is time to get out. Often your judgement can be clouded because you are really attracted physically to him, but this is no good if you are not also emotionally connected.

 

You don’t like yourself when you are with him. If you react negatively to their family, friends or when in their environment it is a sure sign that you will not have a good relationship in the long term. It is obvious that your personalities do not match and you could find yourself either becoming like them or becoming angry with yourself because you are not being true to yourself.

 

He has cheated on you more than once. If your partner has cheated on you more than once it is very likely that it will happen again. It is probably part of their character and you will never change them, so it is a waste of time to keep trying.

 

He keeps you away from his friends and family. If your partner keeps you away from their friends and family, you have to ask yourself why. Do they have some secret that they don’t want you to know about? Are they ashamed or embarrassed about you? Something is definitely not quite right.

 

He has a serious character/personality problem. Some people just have to make a drama out of everything and make life difficult. If this is the type of relationship you have, then think seriously as to whether you want to continue with it – your energy will be drained and your life will lurch from one drama/crisis to another.

 

You have no respect for each other. For a relationship to last each partner needs to respect the other and accept you the way you are. If one of you has a big ego and thinks you are better than the other or one of you belittles the other, then that is a sure sign that it is time to end the relationship.

 

One of you wants to see other people. If that is what he want to do, or it is what you want to do, then it is obvious that they do not want your relationship to progress any further. If you are hoping for more out of life then it is time to get out of that particular relationship.

 

You argue all the time. If you are arguing and fighting all the time it is a sure sign that you are not compatible and are with the wrong person.

 

Other people are advising you to break up with him. Because friends and family can see things from the outside and are not emotionally involved, they can usually see the obvious flaws and signs that the relationship is not right for you. If everyone is telling you that you should end the relationship it is worth listening to them, chances are, they are right.

Do not settle for second best – you only live once. Be aware of the faults in yourself and in your partner and be realistic, if things are not right, then have the courage to face up to it and move on. Have an honest look at how things are with your partner and look out for the signs.  If you are at the point of asking yourself “Should I end my relationship?” then the answer is quite likely to be “Yes.”

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Alternatives to Online Dating

Many singles turn to online dating these days, but there are many people who are not comfortable with this and are looking for alternatives to online dating.

If you are someone who has tried online dating but have perhaps had some bad experiences or wasted too much time and money and got nowhere, don’t forget that there are alternatives to online dating.

alternatives to online dating
Join clubs and groups where there are likely to be other like-minded people there. You will all have something in common from the start, so there is a strong possibility that you will become friendly with someone of the opposite sex. You may not fall in love at first sight, but you may find over time that you enjoy being in each others company, so romance may follow.

 

Your friends also offer a good way to introduce you to new people. They will most likely mix with a different set of people to you in some parts of their lives, so may come across someone that may be of interest to you. They could arrange for you to meet up, perhaps as part of a group initially, introduce you and hopefully things could move on from there.

Because your friend knows you both, he or she should have a pretty good idea that you could be compatible. So try and enlist the help of others when you are looking for new people to come into your life.

 

Join an offline dating agency. There are still some that exist. There is no shame in doing this. Many people meet their future partners in this way. Dating agencies can range from high priced individual matching services, dinner dates, special interest agencies to reasonably priced list methods. Check out what is available in your area.

 

Book a singles holiday. I know this sound a bit daunting, but it is a great way to meet new people as you are all in the same position. It could be great fun and you’ll meet some great people and possibly “click” with someone special.

 

Volunteer. Why not offer your services to a local charity and become a volunteer. This will open up your world to a new set of people as well as making a difference to a good cause. It will help you to gain confidence and feel good about yourself.

 

Speed dating. This can be a fun evening and you could possibly meet some interesting people.

In case you’re not familiar with it, this is how it works:

Ladies sit at tables and remain seated throughout the evening, a man        comes and sits with you for four minutes and you chat and find out about each other and get an idea as to whether you may be compatible. When the four minutes is up, a bell rings and the men move on to the next table and so on. There is no pressure or commitment and no details are given out. Each person has a score card (pink for ladies, blue for men) to keep track of your thoughts on each contact.

After the event the cards are collected and read through for matches – there has to be a mutual match before any further contact is made. If there are any mutual matches, they will be contacted after the event and then it is up to them whether they wish to take it any further.

 

If you are seriously looking for alternatives to online dating, want a long-term relationship and would like to know where to meet eligible men, then the answer to that question is “Just about anywhere.” As well as the suggestions above whenever you are out and about, whether it is at work, shopping, walking the dog, picking the kids up from school, always make sure you are friendly and open to everyone you meet. Give people a smile, make a friendly comment. You will find that people will usually respond to you in a positive manner. Who knows, one of these days it might just lead further. So always be prepared.

Don’t let yourself become desperate to find a partner otherwise you may end up settling for someone who is not suitable. Just concentrate on enjoying your life and having fun, you will find that people will be drawn to you naturally if you are relaxed and happy with yourself.

The alternatives to online dating are easy for anyone to put into practice, so go on, get on with filling your life with as many things as you possibly can.

What you Should NEVER do on facebook after a First Date

Facebook and first dates don’t mix, so make sure you don’t jeopordise a  potential new relationship by doing the wrong things.

Check out my guest article in digitalromanceinc e-magazine – What you should NEVER do on facebook After a First Date.

What you Should NEVER do on Facebook After a First Date

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Love After Divorce – Are You Ready?

How do you know when you are ready to find love after divorce?  When a marriage breaks down, it is always a sad and difficult time, even if things haven’t been great between you for some time. Whatever the circumstances you will still need to give yourself time to adjust to your new way of life before jumping into a new relationship.

Love after divorce

You will be left with a huge space in your life and will most likely feel that you need to fill it as quickly as possible, but it could be a big mistake to look for love after divorce too soon, as your judgment may be seriously clouded. You could end up making bad choices and give yourself more pain and grief to deal with. It is never a good idea to meet someone on the rebound as you are likely to have issues that need dealing with first.

Time is a great healer, so it is important to give yourself time to grieve for your old relationship. Get over the anger and other emotional issues and allow yourself time to re-evaluate what you want out of life. It is unfair to start a new relationship when you are unable to move on from the previous one. Take time to nurture yourself, enjoy old interests or try some new ones, spend time with family and friends and enjoy just being you.

If children are involved, you also need to consider them and allow them time to grieve the loss of their old family life and adjust to a new way of life. This can take a long time as the decision to divorce was nothing to do with them. Introducing someone new into their lives at this stage can cause some very challenging behaviours, even for grown-up children, so for their sake, you must allow time.

Everyone is different in the way they deal with divorce and the issues that go with it, some people may be ready to move on and look for love after divorce within a year, others will take much longer, only you know how you feel. It is essential if you want your next relationship to be successful, that you have moved on and let go of the past. It is all too easy to carry old resentments forward and damage any future relationships.

When you feel ready to move on, it can be an exciting time embarking on the world of dating once again and signifies a new chapter in your life. Try and meet each date with an open mind and an open heart rather than comparing them to your ex. Remember nobody is perfect, we all have our good points and bad points, so judge each person on their own merits and give yourselves the chance to get to know each other. There is no rush to make a commitment, just concentrate on enjoying each others company and having fun together.  Love after divorce will happen, but take your time and make sure you get to know your new partner inside out before making a commitment.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Why Can’t I Find Love?

Have you been looking for that “special person” for a while now, but been unable to find them?  You will be asking yourself “Why can’t I find Love?” and wondering if there is something wrong with you.

 

It is time to step back and take an honest look at your life and work out just what it could be that is getting in the way of you finding love. If you can’t find love there are a number of things that could be causing an issue – see whether any of these 5 things could be getting in the way:

 

Your career or job. Are you too devoted to your job? When you have no-one special in your life, it can be easy to let your working life take over to fill in the gaps. If you are always at work, it is not going to be possible to have the time to embark on a new relationship, let alone maintain one. You need to re-assess your priorities and make space for socialising and relaxation. No one wants to be with a workaholic! Don’t use work as an excuse to not get yourself out and meet some new people.

 

 

Your friends. Are you surrounding yourself with negative people? Sometimes your friends can unwittingly stop you from finding love, maybe they have had a bad experience in the past and are bitter towards the opposite sex. Their negative attitude could rub off on you making you feel the same when they are around. Maybe they behave badly or don’t dress well causing embarrassment – any of these things could stop you from attracting a mate. So have a truthful look at them and if you think it could be them holding you back, either find some new friends or try talking to your old ones.

 

Your home. Are you proud of your home? Is it clean and tidy or dirty, untidy and filled with clutter? Would you be happy to invite someone into your home right now? If the answer is no, then do something about it now. If you don’t have room for a person to come in to your home, then a relationship will have difficulty finding it’s way to you.

 

Your attitude. To attract love, you need to have a positive attitude. If you are always cynical and negative around the opposite sex and doubt that you will ever find that special person, then this negative attitude will show through in your general demeanour and will stop anyone from being attracted to you. Also if you show that you are desperate to find someone, this will also be off-putting. So try and be positive and stop worrying about finding “the one”, just concentrate on making the most of your life and be open to letting new people.

 

Your ex. Have you truly let go of your ex partner? You need to accept fully that the relationship is over so that you can move on to the next chapter in your life. It is very easy to cling on to the happy memories and forget all the bad things that happened when you have got nothing else good in your life. Let them go and make room for someone else.

 

Take a good look at your life and address any of these issues if you think any of them could be holding you back. Stop asking yourself that question “Why can’t I find love?” just make sure you are fully open to finding love – when you are, you may be surprised that love will find you.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

New Love for the New Year

The start of a new year is a good time to take a good look at your life and make changes.  If you have had enough of being on your own, now is the time to start looking for a new love for the new year.

If you don’t know where to start, then my book The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love with a Real Man in the Real World. is exactly what you need.  You will discover everything you need to know from preparing yourself to finding love, where to go, what to do and say to actually meeting the man of your dreams, going on dates and ultimately keeping him forever.

So make sure 2015 is a year to remember – the year when you find your new love for the new year.

I will be writing lots more articles as the year goes by, so please keep coming back to visit.  I’m looking forward to hearing about your success stories in finding your new love.

First Christmas Together – How to Handle it

First Christmas TogetherChristmas can be a stressful time, particularly when you are in a new relationship and this will be your first Christmas together. Though you will be looking forward to being together and enjoying yourselves, there may be issues that can cause immense pressure trying to keep everyone happy. It can also be an emotional time for you as you remember previous Christmases that may have happy with an ex partner or equally emotional if you remember unhappy times from the past.

If this is your first Christmas together, it is important to sit down together with your new partner and talk about how you both feel about Christmas and what your expectations are, what family commitments you each have and how you are going to combine them and work things together.

If one or both of you have children, then obviously they are the first consideration. It is very likely that at some point they are going to want to spend time with their other parent, so you will need to understand this. It is important to talk about this well in advance and have a plan so that the children, you and the ex all know what is going to happen and can get used to the idea of new routine.

If children are not an issue, there may be other commitments and traditions that you need to talk about and negotiate, for instance spending time with your partners family, going to church, going to the works party. These are all going to be new experiences for you both and you need to make sure that you know each others expectations to avoid last minute shocks and disappointments.

It may turn out that you are not going to be able to spend your first Christmas together on the day because of too many other commitments, if this is the case, why not choose another date to have your own Christmas day? You could start your own new tradition and have your Christmas dinner and exchange presents on a day when you are both free – this could become an annual event when you take time away from everyone else and celebrate the two of you being together.

Christmas very rarely lives up to its ideal for anyone, so accept the fact that it is not going to be perfect and will certainly never be the same as it used to be, so go with the flow and try and make some new traditions of your own. Find the bits that you both value and enjoy and make time to do them together.

Making a success of your first Christmas together will require some thought and planning in advance, but as long as you communicate with each other and can negotiate acceptable compromises, then there is no reason why you should not have a happy Christmas – it may not be the same is it used to be, but you will hopefully build on it year after year and start making your own happy memories.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Am I Too Old to Start Dating?

Have you suddenly found yourself on your own again after a bereavement or divorce and cannot imagine meeting someone new and going out on a date? You may be asking yourself “Am I too old to start dating?”

But remember – Age is Just a Number – It’s Never too Late to Start Dating

No matter how old you are, there is no reason why you should not find someone special to share your life with.

 

Perhaps you feel that you are past it and that no-one will be interested in you. This is not the case.  When I was running my dating agency, my oldest member was in his 90’s.  I also had quite a number of men and women in their 70’s and 80’s, they all got plenty of dates.  Lots of mature people in your situation are  looking for that special someone to share their life with so there will always be plenty of potential mates for you to meet.

In fact you may find it easier to date as a mature person than you did as a youngster. This is true for a number of reasons:am I too old to start dating?

You know what you are looking for. You have had a lot of life experience that will help you to know what you want in a relationship and also what you don’t want. You have learned that personal qualities such as kindness, respect and generosity are far more important than material things in a happy, healthy relationship.

You are emotionally mature. You have learned how to see things from someone else’s point of view and be objective. You can keep in control of your feelings and not let irrational thoughts like jealousy get in the way. You can see things as they really are and accept a situation for what it is rather than letting your imagination run away with you.

You know yourself better. When you are young, you haven’t yet figured out who you are, what you want out of life and what your values are. Through the experiences that you have had in your life, you will have learned what your strengths and weaknesses are and learned different strategies for dealing with problems that you face. You will also have determined what you have to offer to someone else’s life and will be less likely to make extravagant promises that you may not be able to keep as you perhaps did when much younger.

You appreciate life more. As you mature, you are likely to have encountered loss and tragedy in your life, which makes you face up to your own mortality. Because of this, you are less likely to take people and things for granted and more likely to appreciate the good things in life. You will be more inclined to believe that a relationship doesn’t have to be 100% perfect to be happy and fulfilling.

Am I too old to start dating

You have a better understanding of human nature. Age and experience teaches you to accept that people have good and bad days. You don’t automatically assume that the whole relationship is wrong just because your partner is feeling negative about something at a particular time. You will have learned that feelings will pass once the negative emotions have been expressed and dealt with.

You have more time and financial freedom. When you are young there are many things that can get in the way of enjoying life – family, career, social life. As you get older, these demands are often less of an issue and you find yourself with time on your hands to do all the things you want to do. Having a partner to do things with can be great fun and can really enhance your life as you try new things together. You may also be lucky enough to be retired and financially secure which is an even greater bonus.

You will live longer. On a final note, scientific studies have shown that love can help you to live longer. Love can help to lower your blood pressure, keep your heart healthy and give you more emotional resources to overcome illness. Having someone special in your life will give you the motivation to recover.

So, don’t forget, when you ask yourself that question “Am I too old to start dating?”  The answer is a resounding “N0”.  You are NEVER too old to start dating. Life is what you make it and there is no reason why you shouldn’t have fun in a new relationship whatever your age.

 

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Am I Being Used?

When looking for love, it can be difficult to know if the person you are dating is really serious about wanting a long-term relationship with you or are you just being used to fill in time until something better comes along? Perhaps little doubts keep springing into your mind for various reasons and you need to ask yourself the question – “Am I being used?”

There are some signs to look out for which will help you to decide whether your relationship is going anywhere or whether you are just being used.

Am I being used? – 6 signs to look out for:

  • He often cancels or puts off dates at the last minute or doesn’t ring or turn up when he said he would. This is a sign that he has better things to do than see you. You are obviously not no. 1 on his list of priorities.

 

  • His moods blow hot and cold – sometimes he is loving, pays you compliments and tells you how much you mean to him and other times he is quite cool and distant. When he is in a good mood, is it because he is trying to get round you because he wants something from you and then cooling off when he has got it? Someone who is supposedly in love with you should be happy to see you and be prepared to give and take.

 

  • He avoids being on his own with you. Does he always want to invite friends along when you suggest something for just the two of you or always want to be in the company of other people when you do anything? He could be trying to avoid too much close contact and this is his way of keeping you at arms length.

 

  • He is always asking for favours which he is not keen to return. Does he often ask to borrow money from you? Does he ask you to give him lifts in your car? Feed the cat? Get the shopping? If he is not happy to do the same for you, then there is a good chance that you are being used.

 

  • He avoids physical contact. Do you kiss, hold hands, have good sex? If he is always coming up with an excuse to avoid getting close, this is a sure sign that things are not right.

 

  • He tries to avoid talking about your relationship, often saying that “he doesn’t want to rush anything” or is  “confused”.  If you have been seeing each other for some time and things haven’t moved on at all in that time, then be cautious, he really isn’t intending to commit to you.

 

If you notice any of these signs in your relationship – watch out! You need to look a bit deeper and make sure that this partnership is really genuine – your initial thought “am I being used?” could turn out to be true.  Don’t waste your time on someone who does not treat you as an equal or who is obviously not looking for the same things as you are in a relationship.

 

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Is he Really the Right Man?

Have you been asking yourself “Is he really the right man?”  You’ve been dating for some time now, but you’re not sure whether he’s the right man for you or not. Your friends think that he is wrong for you, and in your heart, you know that he probably isn’t right either. So why don’t you dump him and move on instead of making excuses and hoping that things will get better.

I have written a guest article for Relationship Headquarters which you can read by clicking the link below:

http://www.relationshipheadquarters.com/really-right-man/

I hope you are not wasting your time and effort on the wrong man.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

How to Overcome Shyness on a Date

It is very hard to learn how to overcome shyness on a date and meet new people. If you are shy and find it difficult to hold a conversation with a stranger, you will feel anxious and worry that you won’t know what to talk about, you will be worried about saying and doing the wrong thing and you just feel generally nervous. It is all too easy to keep yourself to yourself and not to even bother about meeting anyone new however desperately you really want to.How to overcome shyness on a date

You may not be able to overcome your shyness completely, but there are ways that will help you to manage yourself which will help to cope with your social anxiety.

Here are some ways to show you how to overcome shyness on a date:

1. Think about your strengths. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. They could be things you have achieved in the past, things you are good at, your values and beliefs. Memorise your list and be proud of it – it is who you are – your identity.

2. Have some topics of conversation ready. Keep up to date with the news and current affairs so that you always have something to talk about. If you already know some of the things that your date enjoys or is interested in, read up on the subjects so that you can participate in a conversation.

3. Stop worrying about what other people might think. You are who you are, you have your own qualities (which you should have listed), you do not need other peoples approval for your own self-worth. Feel good about yourself – this feeling will be picked up by your date with positive effect.

4. Learn some communication skills. There are lots of books that you can read that will help you to overcome your shyness and anxiety in social situations. Check out the library or book shop and find some suitable books on communication skills, social skills, emotional awareness ad relationship management.

5. Learn some relaxation methods. Find a DVD or CD or a book which will help you to learn how to relax. There are simple techniques that you can use, such as breathing exercises which will help to calm you down when you feel the familiar signs of nervousness start.

6. Take up a new activity doing something that you enjoy. By interacting with other like-minded people, you will gain experience talking to people which will boost your confidence. Choose something that you know about or volunteer for a cause that you believe in.

7. Take it one step at a time. Don’t force yourself to do more than you can handle and put yourself under even more pressure. Concentrate on learning one new social skill at a time and make sure you do it well. If you just want to practice smiling and saying “hello”, then do that until you are confident that you are doing it well and naturally, then move on to something else, such as one flirting technique and practice it until it becomes second nature. Gradually build up your skills, you will be surprised how soon you gain confidence.

If you really want to move on with your life and find someone to share it with, it is worth investing some time and effort into yourself. You can learn how to overcome shyness on a date if you really want to, you just need to believe in yourself and believe that there are ways you can help yourself to achieve what you really want.
There are many people who lack confidence and let life pass them by because they do not know how to deal with it. There are also many people who lack confidence, but who do take steps to deal with it and they have moved on to have good careers and a long and successful relationship – it can be done.

 

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

How to Find a Good Man

Have you begun to despair that you will ever find the man of your dreams and don’t really know how to find a good man? Maybe you’ve had so many dates with unsuitable men that you’re beginning to wonder if there are actually any good men out there.

Well, I can assure you that there are, you just need to know where to look and what you are looking for. So here are my tips on how to find a good man:

 

  • First of all you need to know what a good man is. What are the qualities you are looking for in a man? Qualities that I would consider important are integrity, nice personality, trustworthiness, kindness, supportive, loving, confidence, ambition in life, family-orientated, respectful. The list could go on. The important thing is for you to decide which attributes are the most important to you.

How to find a good man

  • When you are aware of what qualities you are looking for in a man, you then need to work out what qualities you feel a good man would be looking for and make sure that you develop those qualities yourself. A good man is not necessarily looking for the most physically attractive woman, but is looking ultimately for similar things to you. Make sure you are attractive on the inside and your qualities will shine through. Smile a lot and show that you have confidence in yourself. Good men will automatically be attracted to you if you believe in yourself and are happy in your own skin.

 

  • Don’t allow past baggage to affect your future. Yes, we’ve all had bad or negative experiences and these can knock us down, but it is important to let the past go and concentrate on building the future. If you are constantly on the defensive or cannot allow yourself to trust anyone, then you will never find anyone new and your good man will pass you by. So pick up the pieces, put yourself back together and start again with a positive attitude.

 

  • Be open all the time to new opportunities. You never know when you are going to run in to the man who may be perfect for you. It may be at the supermarket, at work, while walking the dog – just about anywhere. So make sure you are always ready to smile and start a conversation. You never know where it might lead.

 

  • Even though there is always the possibility if meeting someone anywhere you go, why not go to places where suitable men might hang out. There will always be guys at the gym, sporting events, motorbike/car shows, parties, clubs and classes, church, volunteering events. These are all places where there is a good chance that you might get chatting to a good man. If you are there as your happy, confident self, then there is a very good chance that he will notice you.

 

Never forget that a good man could be just around the corner waiting for you to bump into him, so make sure that you are always ready for that eventuality. Love yourself, smile and he will be attracted to you like a magnet if he is the right one.

 

 

Autumn is a Great Time to Fall in Love

Autumn can seem a bit depressing to some people with summer holidays a distant memory, suntan fading, Christmas looming up. But on a positive note every season has its own appeal and Autumn can be a very special time to fall in love.

All around are lots of areas of parkland, hedgerows, woodland and open spaces. Most of us are not far way from a wonderful array of colours as the leaves change and fall off, colourful berries are there in abundance for the birds (or for us to gather). What could be more wonderful and romantic than walking hand in hand surrounded by the natural beauty that the countryside gives us.

Studies have shown that we can feel less inhibited when walking side by side with someone and are more likely to be open and honest than when talking about our feelings face-to-face. So what could be better on a first or second date than walking together holding hands kicking through piles of crisp autumn leaves to really get to know each other. This may be just the trigger you need to make you fall in love with each other.

As the days are much shorter, most of us want to slow down and spend more time indoors. Once you have got to know your partner a bit better, it could be time to invite him or her to your home for the first time. Long, cosy evenings together brings with it the opportunity for more intimacy – not necessarily sex, but closeness through conversation, cuddling up watching a good film, playing board or computer games or perhaps cooking for each other for the first time. You will get to know your partner in a completely different setting and begin to get a glimpse into their private world.

We are more likely to fall in love with someone if the things we do remind us of happy times. Doing something special together can evoke good memories and help us to feel that the person that we have not known for very long is becoming less of a stranger. It doesn’t have to be anything out of the ordinary – just having fun, enjoying each others company, maybe collecting conkers or leaves together, picking berries to make wine, sloe gin or pies. A few hours doing something like this could leave us with very happy memories of a special day spent together.

So make the most of this autumn. Enjoy the pleasures that nature gives us, create some happy memories to keep you going through the long winter months – hopefully you will fall in love very soon.

10 Ways to Make Your First Date a Success

First dates are always a bit nerve-wracking. It’s easy to let your nerves get the better of you and end up making a mess of things.  Don’t let this happen – follow these tips to help make your first date a success.  Hopefully it will then have a good chance of progressing further and leading to second, third and even more dates.

Read my latest post on digitalromanceinc.com

10 Ways to make Your First Date a Success

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Use Your Intuition When Looking For Love

It is important to use your intuition when looking for love.  Find out why.

Read my guest post on MatureMatch.co.uk  Why You Shouldn’t Forget Your Intuition When Looking For Love.

Make a Good First Impression on a Date

Make sure you know how to make a good first impression on a date as this counts for a lot when you meet someone new. Always be aware of this and put some thought into how you present yourself.  The person you are dating will decide within a few minutes how they feel about you so you can’t afford to get it wrong if you want your date to be a success. If he likes you on first sight he will subconsciously look for ways to see the best in you.  If he’s not sure initially, then the opposite will happen – he will only notice the negatives.

Here are some tips on how to make a good first impression on a date:

1. Your attitude, including your posture is the first thing that someone will notice about you. Your attitude will tell them if you are open or closed, charming or alarming. Humans are programmed to pick out healthy mates so the way you hold yourself gives a good indicator as to your general state of health, so make sure you are aware of this from the start.

Make sure you are welcoming, enthusiatic and upbeat rather than negative, stand-offish or overly cautious.

2. The way you dress is the second thing that someone will notice about you. Your clothing speaks volumes about you and can tell someone what sort of person you see yourself as – whether you are conventional or flamboyant, sexy or modest, trendy or traditional and also can reveal alot about your socio-economic status. Go through your wardrobe and make sure your clothes are going to make the right statement. Make sure you choose appropriately for each date.

3. Try and smile naturally and show that you are genuinely enjoying yourself.  This signals that you are happy and confident.

4. Make eye contact. By making eye contact, if only briefly, shows that you are open to trusting him.  Just a quick glance to notice his eye colour is enough to begin with.

5. Keep your body language positive. Point your heart towards theirs, this signals that you are not going to harm them.  Don’t cross you arms over your chest as this suggests that you are being closed and defensive.

These are just a few very important basics in how to make a good first impression on a date. Don’t forget how crucial those first few seconds of meeting are. If you miss that chance, you could have messed up a good opportunity for building a relationship with someone who may have turned out to be a perfect mate for you. It is always worth getting yourself prepared beforehand and being aware of how you could influence the way someone else may see you and make it work in your favour.

The best thing is to be yourself and enjoy your date, safe in the knowledge that you have prepared yourself in advance and are giving off the right image and making a good impression.