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Ten Things a Girl Should Never Say to a Guy

Guys can be pretty sensitive in certain areas, particularly any subject that could hint at him being anything less of a man. If you want your relationship to last and be healthy and happy, make sure you are aware of the ten things a girl should never say to a guy.

10 things a girl should never say to a guy

  1. “We need to talk.” This phrase causes immediate panic in any guy and will immediately put him on the defensive and make him clam up. If you are in a loving relationship you should be talking anyway and should not need to announce that you need to talk. If there is something serious that you wish to discuss, try and bring it into the conversation naturally, you are more likely to get a more open chat with him.


  1. “Man up.” Never, ever suggest to your guy that he is not a man, especially not in front of anyone else. This phrase is totally emasculating and should never be used if you want your relationship to continue. Your guy will feel completely humiliated, will find it hard to forgive and forget and may well start looking for ways to counter-attack and humiliate you. If you feel that he is not meeting your expectations, try and find ways to let him know in a sensitive manner without insulting him.


  1. “My ex could do it, why can’t you?” Comparing your guy with your ex is likely to be the kiss of death to your relationship. No man likes to be compared to another guy, particularly one that you have been very close to in the past. So bite your tongue and accept your guy for who he is and not for who he isn’t.


  1. “Your mate is very good looking.” This comment could make your guy feel very insecure as he may think that you fancy his friend more than you do him. Never flirt with his mates and keep your relationship with them on a purely friendly basis. If you want to say something, compliment your guy on having really good friends, he will be flattered that you approve of his choice of mates.


  1. “Never mind… I’ll do it myself.” Guys like to know that they are needed and usually love to do little things for you. Don’t deny him this, it is a masculine instinct to protect his woman. If you won’t let him help you with anything he will subconsciously assume that you don’t think he is capable of doing anything important.


  1. “Do I look fat in this?” This is a question that every guy dreads being asked. There is only ever one acceptable answer, so if he pauses before answering or says the wrong thing, it is likely that you will then be upset or feel insecure and uncomfortable. So the best thing is, just don’t ask the question and trust that his answer would have been the right one if you had asked it.


  1. “I can’t live without you.” Steer clear of this phrase particularly early on in a relationship, it will make you seem needy and clingy. If he is not ready to commit, you may well scare him off.


  1. “Notice anything different?” This is another phrase most men dread. They immediately go into panic mode in case they’ve not noticed your new hairstyle, new outfit or other change in your appearance. Accept that men don’t always notice changes and don’t put him through the agony.


  1. 9. “You’re so immature.” Sometimes we all act childishly, but being told so will make him feel as though he is being told off by his mum. He will immediately feel foolish and will be annoyed at you for making him feel this way.


  1. “Nothings wrong.” Don’t insult your guys intelligence by giving him the silent treatment. When something is not right with you, he will notice and want to help put things right. There is nothing more irritating than denying that there is anything wrong when there clearly is. Talk to him, it is better to get things out in the open than to keep things festering inside.


Always remember that men and women are different in how they see things. Your guy needs to feel like a man and want to protect you, but at the same time has many insecurities and need his own ego boosting. So make sure that you are aware of the ten things a girl should never say to a guy and your relationship should last forever.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”



How to Spot a Dating Con Man

Dating and meeting new people can be a lot of fun, but you must always keep your wits about you and look out for signs that may indicate that things are not quite right and you might be dating a con man. While the majority of men you meet will be genuine and honest, there are unfortunately some who are not and will try and scam you out of money.


Here are some tips in how to spot a dating con man:


He seems too good to be true. A con man has a knack of creating very attractive personas in order to make you fall in love with him very quickly. He may describe himself as a very wealthy businessman who has at last found someone who understands him or a down-to-earth single dad who has found his soul mate. Or he may say that he is a policeman, teacher, lawyer or other professional person in a position of trust and respect. They are very clever at crafting believable situations that lower your guard in order to gain your trust so that they can ask you for money as time moves on.

 How to spot a dating con man

If someone claims to have fallen in love with you too quickly, take a step back and consider the situation. He may be absolutely genuine, but make sure you proceed with caution before you get in too deep and look out for any other suspicious signs.


He wants to move too fast. When you meet someone new, whether it is in person or online, you need to take time to get to know each other slowly. If he declares his undying love for you soon after meeting and starts calling you by a pet name, be wary. Con men are very good at making you feel as though you are the special one they have been looking for all their life and may pressure you into getting married or moving in together. You may feel flattered, but be realistic and insist that he takes things more slowly.


He asks for personal information. Con men can be pretty clever at getting the information they need to get their hands on your money. He may subtly ask about where you bank or could ask to have a look at your driving license. He might offer to do you a favour and pick up some cash for you from the ATM using your card. Identity theft is pretty easy once you’ve got hold of the right information, so make sure you keep this sort of information to yourself until you have got to know him really well.


He asks for money. A con man is very good at coming up with reasons for needing money. He may suddenly have an emergency where he needs cash immediately, such as his pay check hasn’t come through and he needs to pay his rent otherwise he’ll be evicted or a family member needs emergency treatment that needs paying for. He may convince you that it is just a loan to tide him over until the money comes through, but whatever the situation, you should never, ever give anyone any money unless you have known them for a very long time and know that you can trust them completely.


He disappears regularly. A man who disappears for days or weeks at a time is invariably up to no good. It is quite likely that he is leading a double life and may have a wife and family elsewhere. If this happens, especially around holiday times, then be extremely cautious.


The world is full of all types of people, most of whom are decent, law-abiding citizens, but there are those who take advantage of vulnerable women and cheat them out of lots of money, so make sure you follow my tips on how to spot a dating con man and do not fall for their charms.


If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”