Monthly Archives: January 2015

What you Should NEVER do on facebook after a First Date

Facebook and first dates don’t mix, so make sure you don’t jeopordise a  potential new relationship by doing the wrong things.

Check out my guest article in digitalromanceinc e-magazine – What you should NEVER do on facebook After a First Date.

What you Should NEVER do on Facebook After a First Date

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Love After Divorce – Are You Ready?

How do you know when you are ready to find love after divorce?  When a marriage breaks down, it is always a sad and difficult time, even if things haven’t been great between you for some time. Whatever the circumstances you will still need to give yourself time to adjust to your new way of life before jumping into a new relationship.

Love after divorce

You will be left with a huge space in your life and will most likely feel that you need to fill it as quickly as possible, but it could be a big mistake to look for love after divorce too soon, as your judgment may be seriously clouded. You could end up making bad choices and give yourself more pain and grief to deal with. It is never a good idea to meet someone on the rebound as you are likely to have issues that need dealing with first.

Time is a great healer, so it is important to give yourself time to grieve for your old relationship. Get over the anger and other emotional issues and allow yourself time to re-evaluate what you want out of life. It is unfair to start a new relationship when you are unable to move on from the previous one. Take time to nurture yourself, enjoy old interests or try some new ones, spend time with family and friends and enjoy just being you.

If children are involved, you also need to consider them and allow them time to grieve the loss of their old family life and adjust to a new way of life. This can take a long time as the decision to divorce was nothing to do with them. Introducing someone new into their lives at this stage can cause some very challenging behaviours, even for grown-up children, so for their sake, you must allow time.

Everyone is different in the way they deal with divorce and the issues that go with it, some people may be ready to move on and look for love after divorce within a year, others will take much longer, only you know how you feel. It is essential if you want your next relationship to be successful, that you have moved on and let go of the past. It is all too easy to carry old resentments forward and damage any future relationships.

When you feel ready to move on, it can be an exciting time embarking on the world of dating once again and signifies a new chapter in your life. Try and meet each date with an open mind and an open heart rather than comparing them to your ex. Remember nobody is perfect, we all have our good points and bad points, so judge each person on their own merits and give yourselves the chance to get to know each other. There is no rush to make a commitment, just concentrate on enjoying each others company and having fun together.  Love after divorce will happen, but take your time and make sure you get to know your new partner inside out before making a commitment.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Why Can’t I Find Love?

Have you been looking for that “special person” for a while now, but been unable to find them?  You will be asking yourself “Why can’t I find Love?” and wondering if there is something wrong with you.

 

It is time to step back and take an honest look at your life and work out just what it could be that is getting in the way of you finding love. If you can’t find love there are a number of things that could be causing an issue – see whether any of these 5 things could be getting in the way:

 

Your career or job. Are you too devoted to your job? When you have no-one special in your life, it can be easy to let your working life take over to fill in the gaps. If you are always at work, it is not going to be possible to have the time to embark on a new relationship, let alone maintain one. You need to re-assess your priorities and make space for socialising and relaxation. No one wants to be with a workaholic! Don’t use work as an excuse to not get yourself out and meet some new people.

 

 

Your friends. Are you surrounding yourself with negative people? Sometimes your friends can unwittingly stop you from finding love, maybe they have had a bad experience in the past and are bitter towards the opposite sex. Their negative attitude could rub off on you making you feel the same when they are around. Maybe they behave badly or don’t dress well causing embarrassment – any of these things could stop you from attracting a mate. So have a truthful look at them and if you think it could be them holding you back, either find some new friends or try talking to your old ones.

 

Your home. Are you proud of your home? Is it clean and tidy or dirty, untidy and filled with clutter? Would you be happy to invite someone into your home right now? If the answer is no, then do something about it now. If you don’t have room for a person to come in to your home, then a relationship will have difficulty finding it’s way to you.

 

Your attitude. To attract love, you need to have a positive attitude. If you are always cynical and negative around the opposite sex and doubt that you will ever find that special person, then this negative attitude will show through in your general demeanour and will stop anyone from being attracted to you. Also if you show that you are desperate to find someone, this will also be off-putting. So try and be positive and stop worrying about finding “the one”, just concentrate on making the most of your life and be open to letting new people.

 

Your ex. Have you truly let go of your ex partner? You need to accept fully that the relationship is over so that you can move on to the next chapter in your life. It is very easy to cling on to the happy memories and forget all the bad things that happened when you have got nothing else good in your life. Let them go and make room for someone else.

 

Take a good look at your life and address any of these issues if you think any of them could be holding you back. Stop asking yourself that question “Why can’t I find love?” just make sure you are fully open to finding love – when you are, you may be surprised that love will find you.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”