Monthly Archives: December 2014

New Love for the New Year

The start of a new year is a good time to take a good look at your life and make changes.  If you have had enough of being on your own, now is the time to start looking for a new love for the new year.

If you don’t know where to start, then my book The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love with a Real Man in the Real World. is exactly what you need.  You will discover everything you need to know from preparing yourself to finding love, where to go, what to do and say to actually meeting the man of your dreams, going on dates and ultimately keeping him forever.

So make sure 2015 is a year to remember – the year when you find your new love for the new year.

I will be writing lots more articles as the year goes by, so please keep coming back to visit.  I’m looking forward to hearing about your success stories in finding your new love.

First Christmas Together – How to Handle it

First Christmas TogetherChristmas can be a stressful time, particularly when you are in a new relationship and this will be your first Christmas together. Though you will be looking forward to being together and enjoying yourselves, there may be issues that can cause immense pressure trying to keep everyone happy. It can also be an emotional time for you as you remember previous Christmases that may have happy with an ex partner or equally emotional if you remember unhappy times from the past.

If this is your first Christmas together, it is important to sit down together with your new partner and talk about how you both feel about Christmas and what your expectations are, what family commitments you each have and how you are going to combine them and work things together.

If one or both of you have children, then obviously they are the first consideration. It is very likely that at some point they are going to want to spend time with their other parent, so you will need to understand this. It is important to talk about this well in advance and have a plan so that the children, you and the ex all know what is going to happen and can get used to the idea of new routine.

If children are not an issue, there may be other commitments and traditions that you need to talk about and negotiate, for instance spending time with your partners family, going to church, going to the works party. These are all going to be new experiences for you both and you need to make sure that you know each others expectations to avoid last minute shocks and disappointments.

It may turn out that you are not going to be able to spend your first Christmas together on the day because of too many other commitments, if this is the case, why not choose another date to have your own Christmas day? You could start your own new tradition and have your Christmas dinner and exchange presents on a day when you are both free – this could become an annual event when you take time away from everyone else and celebrate the two of you being together.

Christmas very rarely lives up to its ideal for anyone, so accept the fact that it is not going to be perfect and will certainly never be the same as it used to be, so go with the flow and try and make some new traditions of your own. Find the bits that you both value and enjoy and make time to do them together.

Making a success of your first Christmas together will require some thought and planning in advance, but as long as you communicate with each other and can negotiate acceptable compromises, then there is no reason why you should not have a happy Christmas – it may not be the same is it used to be, but you will hopefully build on it year after year and start making your own happy memories.

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