Monthly Archives: October 2014

How to Find a Good Man

Have you begun to despair that you will ever find the man of your dreams and don’t really know how to find a good man? Maybe you’ve had so many dates with unsuitable men that you’re beginning to wonder if there are actually any good men out there.

Well, I can assure you that there are, you just need to know where to look and what you are looking for. So here are my tips on how to find a good man:


  • First of all you need to know what a good man is. What are the qualities you are looking for in a man? Qualities that I would consider important are integrity, nice personality, trustworthiness, kindness, supportive, loving, confidence, ambition in life, family-orientated, respectful. The list could go on. The important thing is for you to decide which attributes are the most important to you.

How to find a good man

  • When you are aware of what qualities you are looking for in a man, you then need to work out what qualities you feel a good man would be looking for and make sure that you develop those qualities yourself. A good man is not necessarily looking for the most physically attractive woman, but is looking ultimately for similar things to you. Make sure you are attractive on the inside and your qualities will shine through. Smile a lot and show that you have confidence in yourself. Good men will automatically be attracted to you if you believe in yourself and are happy in your own skin.


  • Don’t allow past baggage to affect your future. Yes, we’ve all had bad or negative experiences and these can knock us down, but it is important to let the past go and concentrate on building the future. If you are constantly on the defensive or cannot allow yourself to trust anyone, then you will never find anyone new and your good man will pass you by. So pick up the pieces, put yourself back together and start again with a positive attitude.


  • Be open all the time to new opportunities. You never know when you are going to run in to the man who may be perfect for you. It may be at the supermarket, at work, while walking the dog – just about anywhere. So make sure you are always ready to smile and start a conversation. You never know where it might lead.


  • Even though there is always the possibility if meeting someone anywhere you go, why not go to places where suitable men might hang out. There will always be guys at the gym, sporting events, motorbike/car shows, parties, clubs and classes, church, volunteering events. These are all places where there is a good chance that you might get chatting to a good man. If you are there as your happy, confident self, then there is a very good chance that he will notice you.


Never forget that a good man could be just around the corner waiting for you to bump into him, so make sure that you are always ready for that eventuality. Love yourself, smile and he will be attracted to you like a magnet if he is the right one.



Autumn is a Great Time to Fall in Love

Autumn can seem a bit depressing to some people with summer holidays a distant memory, suntan fading, Christmas looming up. But on a positive note every season has its own appeal and Autumn can be a very special time to fall in love.

All around are lots of areas of parkland, hedgerows, woodland and open spaces. Most of us are not far way from a wonderful array of colours as the leaves change and fall off, colourful berries are there in abundance for the birds (or for us to gather). What could be more wonderful and romantic than walking hand in hand surrounded by the natural beauty that the countryside gives us.

Studies have shown that we can feel less inhibited when walking side by side with someone and are more likely to be open and honest than when talking about our feelings face-to-face. So what could be better on a first or second date than walking together holding hands kicking through piles of crisp autumn leaves to really get to know each other. This may be just the trigger you need to make you fall in love with each other.

As the days are much shorter, most of us want to slow down and spend more time indoors. Once you have got to know your partner a bit better, it could be time to invite him or her to your home for the first time. Long, cosy evenings together brings with it the opportunity for more intimacy – not necessarily sex, but closeness through conversation, cuddling up watching a good film, playing board or computer games or perhaps cooking for each other for the first time. You will get to know your partner in a completely different setting and begin to get a glimpse into their private world.

We are more likely to fall in love with someone if the things we do remind us of happy times. Doing something special together can evoke good memories and help us to feel that the person that we have not known for very long is becoming less of a stranger. It doesn’t have to be anything out of the ordinary – just having fun, enjoying each others company, maybe collecting conkers or leaves together, picking berries to make wine, sloe gin or pies. A few hours doing something like this could leave us with very happy memories of a special day spent together.

So make the most of this autumn. Enjoy the pleasures that nature gives us, create some happy memories to keep you going through the long winter months – hopefully you will fall in love very soon.

10 Ways to Make Your First Date a Success

First dates are always a bit nerve-wracking. It’s easy to let your nerves get the better of you and end up making a mess of things.  Don’t let this happen – follow these tips to help make your first date a success.  Hopefully it will then have a good chance of progressing further and leading to second, third and even more dates.

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10 Ways to make Your First Date a Success

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Use Your Intuition When Looking For Love

It is important to use your intuition when looking for love.  Find out why.

Read my guest post on  Why You Shouldn’t Forget Your Intuition When Looking For Love.

Make a Good First Impression on a Date

Make sure you know how to make a good first impression on a date as this counts for a lot when you meet someone new. Always be aware of this and put some thought into how you present yourself.  The person you are dating will decide within a few minutes how they feel about you so you can’t afford to get it wrong if you want your date to be a success. If he likes you on first sight he will subconsciously look for ways to see the best in you.  If he’s not sure initially, then the opposite will happen – he will only notice the negatives.

Here are some tips on how to make a good first impression on a date:

1. Your attitude, including your posture is the first thing that someone will notice about you. Your attitude will tell them if you are open or closed, charming or alarming. Humans are programmed to pick out healthy mates so the way you hold yourself gives a good indicator as to your general state of health, so make sure you are aware of this from the start.

Make sure you are welcoming, enthusiatic and upbeat rather than negative, stand-offish or overly cautious.

2. The way you dress is the second thing that someone will notice about you. Your clothing speaks volumes about you and can tell someone what sort of person you see yourself as – whether you are conventional or flamboyant, sexy or modest, trendy or traditional and also can reveal alot about your socio-economic status. Go through your wardrobe and make sure your clothes are going to make the right statement. Make sure you choose appropriately for each date.

3. Try and smile naturally and show that you are genuinely enjoying yourself.  This signals that you are happy and confident.

4. Make eye contact. By making eye contact, if only briefly, shows that you are open to trusting him.  Just a quick glance to notice his eye colour is enough to begin with.

5. Keep your body language positive. Point your heart towards theirs, this signals that you are not going to harm them.  Don’t cross you arms over your chest as this suggests that you are being closed and defensive.

These are just a few very important basics in how to make a good first impression on a date. Don’t forget how crucial those first few seconds of meeting are. If you miss that chance, you could have messed up a good opportunity for building a relationship with someone who may have turned out to be a perfect mate for you. It is always worth getting yourself prepared beforehand and being aware of how you could influence the way someone else may see you and make it work in your favour.

The best thing is to be yourself and enjoy your date, safe in the knowledge that you have prepared yourself in advance and are giving off the right image and making a good impression.