Monthly Archives: September 2014

The Art of Flirting

The Art of Flirting is something that you need to learn if you want to attract the attention of someone who looks interesting.

Flirting can be much more than just a bit of fun, done effectively it can be the very first step to the beginning of a beautiful relationship. Flirting with someone can create a positive effect and make them feel good about themselves.

So how do you develop the art of flirting?

Flirting is a subtle communication tool that we often use instinctively to draw the attention to ourselves of someone who we find attractive in some way. It is a natural gift that we are given at birth, but we don’t always use it and follow our instincts, so can end up by giving out wrong signals which are misinterpreted or not appreciated.

Here are some tips to help you to learn the art of flirting

Look into his eyes. The eyes are the first thing you notice about a person, so let your eyes do the talking. Let your eyes rest for a moment on the persons eyes you are interested in with a facial expression that conveys an emotional message, as they notice your look, then look away. This will make him notice you.

Subtle and subconscious signals can speak volumes. Running a finger gently through your hair, playing with your keys, moving your hands up and down a glass, all send a sensual message and indicate that you are interested in a person.

Start a conversation. Be the first one to speak and try and get him to engage in a conversation. Try not to ask personal questions at first, but try and find out what sort of thing he is interested in and tell him about your interests.

Give him a wink. Make sure that you convey the right message by doing it properly.

Touch. Being touched by someone you find attractive is very exciting. Touch his arm casually during conversation, lead him to the dance floor by holding his hand, playfully touch his neck or gently touch  his face. These are all signals that show you find someone attractive.

Invite him to dance. Dance close to his body and make sensuous moves, make eye contact and smile. This can be very seductive and flirtatious.

Compliment him Men love to receive a compliment, so say something nice to him– comment on what he is wearing,his hair, his smell. Be sincere though, if you go over the top it could sound false.

Buy him a drink or send him a little note. This will let him know that you are interested in him and will surely impress him.

Show off your best features. Everyone is special in some way or other. So flaunt your best features – perhaps you have nice shiny hair, seductive lips or come-to-bed eyes. Use your best features to your advantage – you will be irresistible.

Be Bold. If you want to say something come right out with it. If you want to touch him, do it. If you’ve got the nerve go right up to him and give him a passionate kiss. It is most likely that he will be impressed by your bold attitude and find it real turn-on.

Have a go at some of these flirting techniques next time you are out. It can take a bit of practise to learn the art of flirting and get it right, but have some fun and get yourself noticed.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”

Are You Ready to Start Dating?

Make sure that you are ready to start dating before you start looking for a man. It is no good starting your search for love if you are not prepared in advance.

Ask yourself  before you start on your search for a good man “Are you ready to start dating?”

Are you ready to start dating

 

Here is my Top 10 checklist to make sure you are ready to start dating:

1.Make sure you are mentally prepared. Think about what you really want out of life, what attributes you would like in a partner and commit yourself to getting what you want. Put in some time and effort effort and don’t be half-hearted about it. Keep in your mind that you may have to face rejection, so be prepared to pick yourself up, not take it personally, move on and not give up at the first hurdle

2. Buy yourself some new clothes – have a really good shopping spree. Get some advice from a friend or shop assistant about what suits you. Dress appropriately for your age and lifestyle – if you don’t feel comfortable in what you are wearing, you will not feel relaxed. If you feel good – you will look good.

3.Make sure your body is in good shape. Have your hair cut or re-styled. Join a gym or exercise class, start to tone up by modifying your diet and exercising more. Make sure you are well-groomed generally. You will feel more confident about yourself, so will be more attractive to others as they will sense your confidence.

4. Have realistic expectations. You are more likely to achieve success if you choose someone who is of a similar age to yourself and has similar aspirations, rather than someone who is 20 years younger or moves in completely opposite social circle.

5. Get yourself out there. Join clubs, sports groups, societies, drama groups, special interest group, anything where you might just meet like-minded potential partners.

6. Surround yourself with positive people if you can –family and friends who are supportive of your dating efforts. Negative people can drag you down and drain your confidence. A positive attitude will help to keep you more focussed.

7. Try not to take it all too seriously. Have fun and enjoy meeting people and take pleasure in their company rather than always worrying whether they are going to be Mr Right. You will most likely end up making some fantastic new friends and having some fun times along the way with people who are not going to be the love of your life, but are lovely people any way.

8. Don’t be too available. If you come across as over-eager or desperate, that can put people off. Take things slowly, people generally enjoy a bit of mystery and the thrill of the chase when dating. You are more likely to find true love if you take the time to get to know each other properly.

9. Don’t be too specific with your search criteria, i.e. he must be blond, tall, slim etc. you will limit your choice of potential partners and may well let someone who might have been perfect in most other ways, slip through the net. Try and keep an open mind and give someone a chance who may not exactly fit the bill. Meeting someone who lives nearby would be ideal, but don’t eliminate someone who live further away as you can always arrange to meet half way.

10. Have a sense of humour. If a date doesn’t work out as you had hoped, see the funny side and move on. Keep a diary of your experiences or share them with a friend. There will always be something to have a laugh about at a later date and perhaps something to learn from a particular experience.

If you follow these dating tips to get yourself prepared you will know that you are really ready to start dating and be on the right track for success.  Hopefully it will not be too long before you come across your perfect partner – there are a lot of lonely men, so get out there and meet some of them.

If you need help to find your real man check out “The Lost Art of Offline Dating. How to Find Love With a Real Man in the Real World.”